So Curious Cat became a bit of a trend at some point last year. For those of you who don’t know, Curious Cat a website where users can anonymously ask people questions, and they can answer (or not). Predictably, it became a magnet for trolls, so most people ended up deleting their accounts eventually (and this is why we can’t have nice things). However, a while ago blogger Lucy Goes Dating wrote a post answering questions from the app, which I thought was a cool idea. So I reactivated by account to do my own little Q&A session. Read on to find out more about me! (Some of the original spelling mistakes left in for effect).
Do you not release how many people live in poverty because of conservatives which you vote for, you should go on universal credit
I’ve been on Universal Credit twice, once when I got fired for having health problems, and once because I got made redundant when the company I just started working for screwed me over. Both times the Job Centre were super-helpful and you can get advance payments if you need cash urgently.
When you vote conservative do you think of all the poor people suffering because of universal credit and other cuts
Not really, as I tend to vote on policies not propaganda. However, I do think of poor people when I donate £500 a year sponsoring a child in Tanzania, meanwhile most of the lefties I know never donate to anything *sips tea*.
Do you agree with abortion?
Yes, however only within 24 weeks (bar exceptional circumstances), not up until the baby is born.
You and Jacob reese mog would be a great match you to should get together
I think he’s married…
Do you think dating is more difficult for taller ladies, or shorter guys? As a shorter guy, I certainly appreciate the difficulties faced from the opposite end.
Originally I was going to say shorter guys. I mean, dating as a tall woman is difficult, but I think shorter guys get a bit of a raw deal, as often on dating apps even women who aren’t tall themselves can dismiss a guy for being on the shorter side. However, I think overall men have the upper hand in dating as there are more nice/ attractive women to choose from, so any guy who is confident can do well for himself.
When was the last time you kissed someone?
Eek, about 5 months ago now. I need to get back on it.
Deep down your scared to be in a relationship I have seen this lots of times before, you make excuses and beat around the bush because you’re scared of being with someone in a relationship and opening your heart up and of getting Hurt
Hmm, I wouldn’t say I’m scared to be in a relationship. If anything, I’d say I may have had some fear around seeing someone and it not ending up in a relationship, as the first guy I had a thing with really hurt me and it messed me up for a long time, and perhaps a part of me worries about the same thing happening again. However, I’m working on it, and trying to make better choices moving forward.
What do your friends say to you when you talk about sex?
Well I don’t have a wealth of experience to draw from, but we talk sex sometimes and we’re generally supportive of each other’s choices. This hasn’t always been the case, but these days I accept great friends only.
How often do you think about having sex?
From time to time 😀
How would you feel about using sex toys on a male partner? Say anal related toys
I’m not really into anal stuff, but I’m open to using some form of sex toys.
What was your friends and families reaction when you told them you where a virgin? Also when you tell people now at 28?
Weirdly, no-one has ever been that surprised. I don’t know if that’s because I say it in a confident matter-of-fact way so people feed off my energy and respond with acceptance. Or maybe I’m socially awkward and weird, or give off an innocent vibe so no-one is that surprised.
You’re an inspiration 💕 soon to be a 27-year-old virgin and I feel so bad about this even though I shouldn’t. I have times where I’m like “yeah I’m okay with this!” and other times where I’m completely depressed. I’m too scared of what men will think of me once they find out. What were your personal experiences?
My ex-boyfriend wasn’t bothered. After that I never really got to the point where I’d tell anyone, I went on a lot of first-second dates but everything seemed to fizzle at that point. After I went on TV, I ended up telling people as it came up in conversation, and guys weren’t bothered, some even respected it, although one hot guy unmatched me when I did my brutally honest Tinder bio. To be honest, after the journey I’ve had, I think anyone put off by that isn’t really worth dating tbh. The right person will appreciate you for who you are. Have faith.
How do you feel about if you turn 30 and your still a virgin
Good question. Thing is, I have a lot of anxiety around ageing. Most of the dating I’ve done in my twenties consisted of frantically churning out a million dates with the aim of settling down before, as the story goes, I hit 30, my looks fade, and no-one is even interested any more. Even in my early twenties, I was terrified of the “wilt”. And people can say “but older women are MORE EXPERIENCED!”, but the problem is, I’m not experienced. I saw myself as this chaste fair maiden, running through a field of flowers in a white dress, just waiting for a masculine man to sweep me off my feet. But that image relies on youth, and you can’t force a romance out of thin air. So what to do?
However, I think my anxiety and ageing complex may have been a contributing factor in remaining single for the majority of my twenties. I mean from a Law of Attraction perspective at least, it’s an absolute disaster. I need to let go of the time limit to have any hope of meeting anyone. And I was hot when I was younger, but no-one was interested in me because I was shy. Ultimately, it’s about personality, not how you look or how many people you’ve slept with. So who knows? Perhaps I’ll do better at 30. Yes, ideally, I would like to have sex this decade, but if it doesn’t happen, I’ll allow myself one cry, then go out and have a great holiday and party anyway.
You must masturbate a lot if you don’t have sex how often do you do it?
Not that often actually. The less I have, the less I want.
What advice when you tell someone on an date that you still an virgin at 35?
I wouldn’t personally mention it on the first date (unless they ask). I’d go with just getting to know each other to begin with and showcasing all your other amazing qualities. Then if there is a spark, a bit later on bring it up in a conversation about previous relationships.
We know you’re a virgin which is your choice but I am interested have you ever done anything sexual at all with another person? I mean fingers, oral, had an orgasm or even just touching, how far have you gone?
If you’re a family member reading this, I’ve never gone any further than secretive glances across a church pew.
For anyone else, let’s just say, a little more than a kiss, but not the full shebang.
Given the choice would you lose your virginity to another virgin? Or rather they were experienced?
Dating is a buyer’s market for men and I’ve always been fairly picky, so I always assumed I’d end up with someone more experienced. However, there are exceptions to the obvious stereotype (there was a guy on The Bachelor who was a virgin who was HOT) so you never know.
Seriously… What makes you think anyone would want you when you’re 29, live at home, keep getting fired and your boring? You’re also fucking scrawny and ugly and have no personality. Will be surprised if you ever get laid
Well, there’s no STI risk, and I’ll have no other lovers to compare you to so I won’t realise you’re terrible in bed- so the question should be- why WOULDN’T you want to be with me?
Also I’m f***ing fantastic.
Do you have smelly feet?
No. At least, I don’t think so…